What is with some parents not being able to let go of their kids, particularily their daughters? With the 1900s behind us and being in a new century and millenium where women have always been allowed to vote, go to post secondary school, move out on their own without needing to marry first, and generally make their own choices... the question is why are there still parents out there that still feel the need to restrict their 20 year old daughters? I am not one those restricted, but I am being affected by it all the same because Catholic and Annabelle are having severe problems with regards to New Year's Eve.

Catholic's parents don't want her to go to Brent's with me to spend the night. After much fighting, they came to the decision that Catholic will be picked up at 3:00 a.m. Why? Because her boyfriend might be there and Brent is not female. Meanwhile, Catholic practically lives with her boyfriend in Ottawa and will be living with him over the summer. Her parents are aware of this. Unhappy about it, but aware. So why not let her spend the night? Furthermore, why is it a matter of letting her? She's 20 years old! She'll be 21 in April.

Looking at this from another angle, other then wondering what they can do at Brent's that they can't do in Ottawa, and what they being prevented from doing at 4 am that they can't do at 11 pm... Who cares if it's at Brent's? Do they really think that Brent will sleep with her? My friend? Cheat on me right under my nose? "Uh... sorry, Jendra. Catholic and I are going off together for a little while. We're going to have sex. See ya!"

At the very least though, she can come.

Annabelle? That is an even more difficult situation. Her parents are insistant that they spend New Year's Eve together as a family. They told her this yesterday, after she had made plans. I don't know what sort of people think they have the right to control their 20 year old daughter so completely that they think they can command her to do as she's told; No matter if she's made other plans, no matter if she doesn't want to.

Furthermore, it's all because her sister is coming down for a few days and will be there at 10 pm. She is insistant that Annabelle be there, no matter how Annabelle feels, no matter that the whole family can be together on New Years Day, when it won't make anyone miserable or inconvenience anyone. Selfish girl. As if her sister's happiness isn't as important as her own. It makes me so angry.

So, this evening we all had coffee and discussed what was to be done. We came up with arguments for her, we came up with options, and eventually we settled on a game plan.

We're picking her up at 6:30. We're going to go inside her house in a very cheerful manner with a gift of wine for her parents. We're going to blow party horns and give her mom a hug to soften her up. If all goes as planned, her mom will let her go, rather than make a fuss in front of us.

Annabelle will also tell them that she will have a ride home with Catholic. I'm praying this will work.

It would all be so simple if their parents would stop trying to control them. Unhappily enough, Rock Star was also supposed to come as well. There was a misunderstanding and now she can't. It was really disappointing. What makes it interesting and almost ironic is that she is the one who would have had the least amount of problems coming! Gah! Someone doesn't want me to have this party. Damn you... whoever you are...! You Party Pooper!

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